Alright, so, I got into this whole thing about “self-esteem questions.” I saw it somewhere, and I thought, “Why not?” I mean, who doesn’t want to feel a bit better about themselves, right?
So, I started by just kind of staring at myself in the mirror. Yeah, sounds weird, I know. But I really just looked at myself and asked, “What does confidence even mean to me?” Like, what does it look like when I feel confident? I realized it’s when I’m not second-guessing every little thing I do.
Then, I grabbed my notebook – I use this thing to track everything I try – and I started to write down the areas where I wanted to feel more sure of myself. It was mostly about speaking up more in groups and not feeling like a total idiot when I try new things. I decided to record it for a week.
Day 1
I jotted down some people I think are super confident. My friend, Lisa, came to mind. She just says what she thinks, and it’s cool. I wrote down what I thought made her that way, like she doesn’t seem to care if people disagree with her. And I did my daily questions routine in the evening.
- What am I grateful for today? My family.
- What did I learn today? I’m lack of confidence when facing strangers.
- What am I looking forward to tomorrow? A new day will begin.
- What am I proud of today? I took this action.
- What is one thing I can do to improve myself today? Try to talk to strangers.
- How can I help someone today? There is an old lady who seems need help.
- How can I make today more productive? Don’t think too much, just do it.
Day 2
I tried to speak up in a meeting at work. It was scary, but I did it. I didn’t think too much. And I talked to a stranger at the supermarket. I just asked him where can I get the butter.
Day 3
I practiced a new hobby that I’m still terrible at, but I didn’t quit. I helped an old lady get her lost cat.
Day 4
I talked to another stranger, asking for directions. I spoke my mind to my team leader about a project we were working on, and he actually listened.
Day 5
I kept at my new hobby, and I could see a tiny bit of improvement, which felt good. I told a friend about my confidence project, and she was supportive.
Day 6
I wore an outfit I usually think is too bold for me. I got a compliment on it, which was a nice boost. I called another confident friend to chat about how she handles self-doubt.
Day 7
I reflected on the week. I realized I was feeling more confident in small ways, just by pushing myself a little bit each day. I shared my progress with my online journal group. A lot of them encouraged me.
After a week, I felt like I was starting to get it. I mean, I’m not suddenly the most confident person ever, but I’m more aware of what I need to work on. It’s like, I realized that confidence isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being okay with not being perfect.
I kept up with it, asking myself these questions and pushing myself a little bit more each day. And you know what? It’s actually kind of working. I’m speaking up more, I’m trying new things, and I’m not beating myself up as much when I mess up. I still think too much but I’m improving.
So, yeah, that’s my whole journey with these “self-esteem questions.” It’s not some magic fix, but it’s a start. And I think that’s pretty cool. I will keep doing this. Just do it. It’s not that hard.
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