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Well, let me tell ya somethin’. When your wife starts hittin’ ya, it ain’t somethin’ easy to talk about, but it happens, you know? I ain’t no fancy doctor or nothin’, but I reckon there’s reasons behind it, and ya gotta figure it out. Sometimes folks think it’s just anger, but there’s more to it.
See, when you’re livin’ together, life ain’t always rosy. It might be that she’s feelin’ stressed out. Maybe it’s the kids, or the money, or even work, but all that can pile up like a big ol’ mountain on her shoulders. And when them shoulders can’t carry it no more, well, sometimes fists fly. Ain’t sayin’ it’s right, but that’s how it can be.
Now, let’s talk ’bout them emotional needs. Sometimes, a woman might feel like she ain’t bein’ loved or listened to, and that makes her frustrated. She might think you ain’t payin’ her no mind or showin’ her affection. She could be feelin’ all alone, even if you’re sittin’ right next to her. And when them emotions get bottled up too long, they can explode, and you’re the one standin’ there in the line of fire.
But listen, it ain’t just stress or feelin’ unloved. Sometimes folks grow up in angry homes, and that anger becomes a part of ’em. If she grew up around folks yellin’ or hittin’, well, maybe that’s all she knows. Ain’t no excuse, but it sure explains things a bit. Hurt people, they say, hurt other people. And if she’s hurtin’, she might take it out on you.
Now, some fellas think, “Well, maybe I did somethin’ to deserve it.” No, sir, you don’t deserve to get hit, no matter what. Don’t be tellin’ yourself that lie. It don’t matter if she’s mad about somethin’ ya did or didn’t do, hittin’ ain’t the answer. You got to stand firm in that, even if she’s shoutin’ and raisin’ her hand.
Another thing ya gotta think ’bout is your own safety. If she’s hittin’ ya, it can get serious quick. Don’t sit there thinkin’ it’ll stop on its own. It could get worse. If things start to look real dangerous, you gotta step away and call someone for help. The police, they’re there to keep folks safe, even if it’s hard to pick up that phone and call ’em. It’s better to be safe than sorry.
And I know it ain’t easy, but sometimes ya gotta talk to her, sit down, look her in the eye, and listen. No interruptin’, no defendin’ yourself, just let her talk. Maybe there’s somethin’ she’s been holdin’ in that’s been hurtin’ her. But don’t take that hittin’ as somethin’ you gotta just accept. It’s gotta stop, but it starts with understandin’ where all this is comin’ from.
- Stay calm – Don’t yell back or raise your hand. That only makes things worse.
- Talk about it – Try to have a heart-to-heart when things calm down. Ask her why she’s actin’ this way.
- Get help if needed – If you can’t handle it on your own, talk to a counselor or even the police if things get bad.
- Take care of yourself – You don’t deserve to be hurt, no matter what.
Now, if she’s goin’ through some rough patch, maybe it’s somethin’ bigger than you think. Could be depression, or maybe she’s dealin’ with somethin’ from the past. Whatever it is, if she’s hittin’ ya, it needs to stop, for both your sakes. Ain’t no way to live, being scared of the one you love.
So, to all ya fellas out there, if this is happenin’ to ya, don’t keep quiet. It ain’t no shame to speak up, whether it’s to her, to a friend, or to the folks who can help. Don’t wait till things get real bad. And remember, you got to take care of yourself, too. Ain’t no use stayin’ in a place where love turns to fear. Everyone deserves better than that, includin’ you.
Tags：Domestic violence, relationship problems, stress, safety, emotional needs
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