Okay, so, let’s talk about something that’s been on my mind lately. It’s kind of personal, but I feel like it’s something a lot of people might relate to, even if they don’t talk about it. Here’s the deal: my libido is higher than my boyfriend’s. Yep, I said it.
At first, I thought something was wrong with me. I mean, I’d always felt like I had a pretty healthy sex drive, but next to him, I felt like some kind of nymphomaniac. I’d be ready to go, and he’d be all like, “Nah, I’m good.” It was frustrating, to say the least.
I started doing some digging, trying to figure out what was up. Turns out, sex drive is this super complex thing. It can change all the time because of stress, how tired you are, how you feel about your body, your overall health, and, of course, how things are going in the relationship. And get this, sometimes it can even be a sign of some underlying medical issue.
So, what did I do? Well, first, I had a real talk with my boyfriend. I told him how I was feeling, and we talked about our different needs and expectations. It wasn’t easy, but it was definitely necessary. We had to get everything out in the open so we could actually start to work on things.
Then, I started paying more attention to my own body and what affects my libido. I noticed that when I’m stressed out from work, my sex drive takes a nosedive. So, I started making an effort to manage my stress better. I started going for a jog after work. Turns out that helps a lot.
- We also tried to expand our definition of sex. It doesn’t always have to be the full shebang. Sometimes, just cuddling, making out, or even just giving each other a massage can be enough to satisfy that need for physical intimacy.
- We started scheduling “us time.” I know, I know, it sounds unromantic, but it actually helps a lot. We’d put it on the calendar, just like any other important appointment. That way, we both knew to expect it, and it gave us something to look forward to.
- I also started focusing on my own needs. Sometimes, you gotta take matters into your own hands, if you know what I mean. There’s no shame in a little self-love, and it can actually help take the pressure off the relationship.
It’s still a work in progress, but things are definitely better. We’re communicating more openly, and we’re both making an effort to understand each other’s needs. It’s not always easy, but it’s definitely worth it.
Changes in sex drive
I also found that my sex drive changes from time to time. So, I started to record my sex drive changes in my diary. Sometimes I really want to do that but sometimes I am just not in the mood. After a few months, I can see a pattern in my diary. That’s amazing! I can know when I need to take care of myself and when I can have some good time with my boyfriend!
So, if you’re in a similar situation, don’t freak out. It’s normal for people to have different sex drives. Just remember to communicate, be understanding, and don’t be afraid to experiment a little. You might be surprised at what you discover!
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