Mom Nagging: Why does it happen and what can you do?
You know, us moms, we always worry. It ain’t easy, raising kids. Always somethin’ to fret about. Little ones, they need watchin’ all the time. Big ones, well, they got their own problems, but you still worry, you know? It’s just how it is. This naggin’ thing, it ain’t cause we mean, it’s cause we care. Too much, maybe. But that’s a mom for ya.
- Little kids, little problems, big kids, big problems: When they’re small, it’s “did you eat?” “don’t touch that!” “put your shoes on!” Then they get bigger, it’s “do your homework” “clean your room” “come home before midnight!” Always somethin’. It never ends, this worryin’ and naggin’. It’s like a never-ending story, you know? But it comes from a good place. We just want them to be okay. Safe and sound. Doing the right thing.
- We just want the best for ya: Maybe we nag about eatin’ vegetables, or wearin’ a coat when it’s cold. Maybe we nag about studyin’ hard or gettin’ a good job. It’s all cause we want you to have a good life. A better life than we had maybe. We ain’t tryin’ to be mean, we just want you to be happy and healthy. That’s all a mom really wants, you see? For her kids to be alright.
But yeah, I get it, sometimes it’s too much. We go overboard, maybe. We say the same thing over and over. It’s like a broken record, ain’t it? But you gotta understand, it ain’t cause we like naggin’. It’s just… it’s hard to let go. Hard to stop worryin’. It’s like it’s built into us, you know?
So, what can you do if your mom nags too much?
Well, first off, try talkin’ to her. I know, I know, easier said than done. But tell her how it makes you feel. Don’t yell or get mad, just explain. Say somethin’ like, “Mom, I know you care, but when you keep naggin’ me about my grades (or whatever it is), it makes me feel stressed and like you don’t trust me.” Just be honest, you know? Tell her how you feel. Maybe she don’t even realize she’s doin’ it so much.
And listen to her too. Sometimes, moms nag cause they feel like they ain’t bein’ heard. Maybe she’s got a point, maybe she’s right about somethin’. You know, sometimes we old folks, we see things a little different. We got more experience, seen more things. So maybe, just maybe, there’s a little bit of truth in what she’s sayin’. At least hear her out. It won’t hurt none.
And moms, we gotta try too. We gotta learn to back off a little. It ain’t easy, but we gotta trust our kids. They ain’t always gonna do things the way we want, but that’s okay. They gotta learn, they gotta make their own mistakes. And sometimes, we gotta just bite our tongues. It’s hard, real hard, but we gotta try. For them, and for ourselves.
Here’s some things us moms can try, I reckon:
- Think before you speak: Is it really important? Or are you just naggin’ outta habit? Sometimes we just say things without thinking, you know? We gotta stop and ask ourselves, is this really somethin’ I need to say? Or am I just being a worrywart?
- Pick your battles: Not everything’s worth naggin’ about. Some things, yeah, you gotta say somethin’. But other things, maybe let it go. Kids ain’t gonna be perfect, and that’s okay. Nobody’s perfect, not even us moms. We gotta learn to let some things slide.
- Try positive talk instead of negative: Instead of sayin’ “Don’t do that!” try sayin’ “How about tryin’ this instead?” It’s all about how you say it, you know? Nobody likes bein’ told what to do all the time. But if you give them options, if you make it sound like a suggestion instead of a command, they might be more likely to listen.
- Find ways to manage your own stress: Sometimes we nag more when we’re stressed out. So take care of yourself, find ways to relax. Go for a walk, read a book, talk to a friend. Whatever helps you calm down. Cause when you’re stressed, you ain’t thinkin’ straight, and you’re more likely to say things you don’t mean. And that ain’t good for nobody.
It ain’t easy, this mom business. It’s the hardest job in the world, I tell ya. But it’s also the best job. And even though we might nag too much sometimes, it’s all cause we love our kids. We just want them to be happy and safe and successful. And that’s all there is to it, really.
So next time your mom nags, try to remember that. She ain’t tryin’ to be mean, she just loves you. And moms, next time you feel like naggin’, take a deep breath and think about it. Is it really necessary? Maybe, just maybe, you can let it go. It ain’t easy, but it’s worth a try. For both of you.
And remember, at the end of the day, we all just want the same thing: a happy family and a peaceful home. That’s what it’s all about. Not the naggin’, not the worryin’. Just love and family. That’s all that really matters in the end.
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