Alright, let’s talk about this “is he… you know” thing. You know, when you’re with a fella and you just can’t figure out if he’s serious or just playin’ around. It’s like tryin’ to catch a greased pig, ain’t it? One minute they’re all sweet and the next, poof, gone like smoke. So, how do you tell if he’s the real deal or just wastin’ your time?
First off, does he hide you away like a dirty secret? This newfangled thing they call “pocketing,” sounds like somethin’ my grandson would do with his marbles. If he ain’t introducin’ you to his friends and family, that’s a big red flag, bigger than the one on my barn after the tornado. He should be proud to be with you, not treatin’ you like you’re somethin’ to be ashamed of.
Then there’s the talkin’. Is he talkin’ to ya regular-like, or is it just when he feels like it? If he’s hot and cold, one minute all over you, the next gone fishin’, that ain’t right. A man who’s serious wants to get to know you, like really know you. He’ll ask you about your day, about your life, about that time you chased the chickens into the neighbor’s yard. He’ll listen, too, not just nod his head while he’s lookin’ at his phone.
And speakin’ of listenin’, does he actually listen? Or is it just in one ear and out the other? A man who cares will remember what you tell him. He’ll remember you like your coffee black and that you can’t stand them noisy crickets outside your window. If he’s forgettin’ everything you say, well, he ain’t payin’ attention, and that means he ain’t serious.
- Is he reliable? Can you count on him?
- Is he available, or always busy with somethin’ else?
- Does he treat you with respect, like you’re somebody important?
If he’s flakin’ out on you all the time, makin’ excuses, and not treatin’ you right, then honey, he ain’t the one. A good man, a serious man, he’ll be there for you. He’ll make time for you. He’ll make you feel safe and loved, not like you’re walkin’ on eggshells all the time.
Now, I ain’t sayin’ it’s easy to figure these things out. Men can be as confusing as a map with no roads on it. But if you pay attention, if you look at his actions, not just his words, you’ll start to see the truth. And if the truth is that he ain’t serious, well, then it’s time to move on. There’s plenty of fish in the sea, as they say, even if most of ’em are just minnows.
And don’t forget this – trust your gut. You know, that little voice inside your head? It’s usually right. If somethin’ feels off, it probably is. Don’t ignore those feelings just because you want things to work out. It’s better to be alone than to be with someone who don’t treat you right. You deserve better than that, you hear?
So, there you have it. A few things to think about when you’re tryin’ to figure out if he’s serious. It ain’t rocket science, but it ain’t always easy either. Just remember to keep your eyes open, your ears perked, and your heart guarded. And don’t settle for nothin’ less than you deserve. You’re worth more than a half-hearted effort, you understand? You’re a good woman, and you deserve a good man.
And one more thing, don’t be afraid to ask him straight out! Sometimes, the simplest way is the best. Just sit him down and say, “Look here, what’s the deal? Are you serious about this or not?” If he hems and haws and can’t give you a straight answer, well, you got your answer right there, didn’t ya? No need to waste any more of your time on someone who can’t be honest with you.
Remember, your time is precious, don’t spend it on someone who doesn’t appreciate you.
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