Okay, so, I’ve been messing around with this idea of a “situationship quiz” lately, and let me tell you, it’s been a bit of a rollercoaster. Basically, I got curious about these undefined relationships that are more than just a fling but not quite a full-blown committed thing. You know, those “we’re hanging out, we’re into each other, but we haven’t really talked about what this is” situations? Yeah, those.
Getting Started
I started by just jotting down some thoughts and ideas. What are the signs that you’re in a situationship? What are the red flags? What are the green flags? I wanted to create something that could help people figure out their relationship status in a fun and engaging way. Then, I started gathering info from all over the place – articles, forums, you name it. I even tapped into my own experiences and those of my friends. It’s wild how common these situations are. And from what I have read on the internet, friends with benefits is platonic friends with sexual benefits, but a situationship is a hookup with emotional benefits. I guess that’s how I should define this kind of relationship.
Building the Quiz
Then came the actual quiz-building part. I decided to use a simple point-based system. You answer a question, you get points based on your response, and at the end, your total score gives you an idea of where you stand. I played around with different question formats – multiple choice, true or false, even some open-ended ones just to mix things up. I wanted the quiz to be informative but also kind of lighthearted, you know? The key, I figured, was to focus on key aspects of any relationship: communication, future plans, exclusivity, etc.
The Questions
The questions themselves were a whole other beast. I ended up with stuff like:
- “How often do you talk about the future?”
- “Have you met each other’s friends or family?”
- “Do you have clear labels for your relationship?”
- “How comfortable are you discussing your relationship status with each other?”
- “Have you been dating for over three months without clarity on your relationship status?”
I tried to cover a wide range of scenarios, from the early stages of dating to those more drawn-out, undefined things that can last for months. The hard part was striking a balance between being direct and not scaring people off. Also, I wanted to get feedback from some friends, but at first, I didn’t have a chance to do that.
Testing and Tweaking
Once I had a decent draft, I started testing it out. I took the quiz myself, which was kind of weird, but also pretty insightful. Then I roped in a few friends to try it out and give me feedback. Some of the questions were too vague, others were too leading. So, I went back to the drawing board and tweaked things here and there. I added more nuanced options, clarified some wording, and even threw in a few new questions based on my friends’ input.
The Final Product
After a few rounds of revisions, I finally landed on a version that I was happy with. It’s not perfect, of course, but it’s definitely a good starting point. The quiz is designed to give you a general idea of whether you’re in a situationship or something else, but it’s not meant to be the ultimate authority. Relationships are complex, and a simple quiz can’t capture all the nuances. But hey, it’s a fun way to start thinking about things, right?
At the end of the day, I think this little project taught me a lot about relationships, both defined and undefined. It’s fascinating how we navigate these gray areas, and it’s always interesting to see how people react to the idea of labeling (or not labeling) what they have. Whether you’re in a situationship, a committed relationship, or something in between, the most important thing is to be honest with yourself and your partner about what you want and where you stand.
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