Well, now, I’m just a plain ol’ grandma type, but I’ll tell ya what I think if ya sayin’ “my wife hits me.” That’s a hard thing to live with, sure enough. Now, don’t get me wrong, in a marriage, folks oughta be treatin’ each other right, lookin’ out for each other. But when one is hurtin’ the other—physically or any other way—that ain’t no small thing, and ya gotta look at what’s goin’ on.
Why She Might Be Hittin’ Ya
Now, I ain’t no doctor, but sometimes folks get all riled up ‘cause of stress, like money troubles, job stuff, or family problems. Life just weighs on folks, and sometimes they don’t know how to handle it. When things are heavy like that, sometimes people act out in ways they shouldn’t. Don’t mean it’s right, but that’s what can happen.
Or maybe she’s feelin’ all lonely or neglected. I tell ya, sometimes a wife just wants to feel loved, hear that she’s appreciated, ya know? If she’s not gettin’ that, she might be takin’ it out in ways that ain’t right, like gettin’ physical. It’s like she’s screamin’ for some attention but not in a good way.
What Ya Can Do
- Talk to Her Calm-Like – Now, I know this sounds simple, but first thing ya gotta try is talkin’. But not with a lotta anger. Sit down when things are calm and say, “Look, this hurtin’ business has gotta stop.” Let her know how it makes ya feel and what it’s doin’ to ya.
- Ask for an Apology – This is a big one. If she’s been hittin’ ya, it’s only fair she says sorry and means it. Now, that don’t fix everythin’ right there, but it’s a start if she can own up to it.
- Set Some Boundaries – Tell her hittin’ is not gonna be part of your lives together. Ya can say, “Look, I love ya, but no more of this.” Sometimes folks need to know where the line is, plain and simple.
- Look for Some Help – If she keeps on, ya might have to get some help from outside, like a counselor or somethin’. There’s no shame in that; sometimes, it’s the only way to get through it.
Thinkin’ ‘Bout Your Safety
Now listen here, if she’s hittin’ ya and it’s gettin’ bad, ya might need to stay somewhere safe for a bit. There’s places that can help, folks ya can call who understand. And don’t think it’s all right just ‘cause she’s a woman and you’re a man. Gettin’ hit ain’t right, no matter who’s doin’ the hittin’. So keep that in mind, okay? You gotta be safe first and foremost.
It’s Not Just Physical—It’s Hurtin’ Inside, Too
Sometimes it ain’t just the hittin’; it’s feelin’ all alone, hurt, and wonderin’ why the one who’s supposed to love ya is actin’ this way. That’s heavy stuff. I know folks go through hard times, but don’t go thinkin’ you gotta stay lonely and scared. That ain’t what love is supposed to be about.
Gettin’ Some Help
If talkin’ and apologizin’ and all that don’t work, then ya got options. There’s help out there. There’s folks who understand this stuff and can help ya get things straightened out. Don’t wait too long, ‘cause the longer it goes, the harder it can get to fix things up.
So take this advice from a simple person like me: love oughta be about kindness, respect, and supportin’ each other. If it ain’t that, then ya gotta figure out what’s next. Don’t stay hurtin’ without tryin’ to make it right somehow. You got the right to be happy and safe, same as anybody else.
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