Well now, let me tell ya somethin’ that I’ve seen happen plenty of times. You got these young folks, especially the ones in relationships, and they get all tangled up in their emotions. Now, if yer boyfriend is avoidin’ ya when yer on yer period, that’s somethin’ worth talkin’ about. A lot of times, folks don’t understand what a woman goes through when she’s dealin’ with that time of the month. I’ve seen it happen in all sorts of relationships, and it’s no different for the younger folks these days, even if they’re in long-distance relationships.
Now, first off, let’s get one thing straight. When a woman’s on her period, her body’s all outta whack. Hormones all over the place, emotions runnin’ wild, and sometimes you just want someone to hold ya. But here’s the thing: your boyfriend, he might pull back a little, especially if he’s not sure how to deal with all them mood swings and the discomfort you’re feelin’. Men, bless their hearts, they don’t always know how to handle it. It ain’t like they’re dealin’ with the same things, and sometimes, they just don’t get it. They might be scared of sayin’ the wrong thing or doin’ the wrong thing, so they think the best way to handle it is to just avoid ya. But that don’t help nobody, does it?
What’s really goin’ on here, though?
Well, some folks say that maybe he’s just keepin’ his distance ‘cause he doesn’t wanna make ya more upset or frustrated. You know how it is, hormones makin’ everything feel bigger than it really is. He might be afraid to say the wrong thing or get too close when you’re feelin’ all sensitive. It’s not necessarily that he doesn’t care, but he might just not know what to do. It’s like when you’re tryin’ to avoid a hornet’s nest — you don’t wanna get stung, so you keep your distance. But that don’t mean the hornet’s not important to you. It just means you don’t know how to handle it.
On the other hand, it could be that he’s just not takin’ yer period seriously enough. I’ve heard plenty of women say that their partners don’t understand how tough it can be to deal with all the cramps and the mood swings. It ain’t just about the bleeding, ya know? There’s a whole lot more to it. And when a partner dismisses it or acts like it’s no big deal, that can make a woman feel even more alone. It’s like when yer neighbor comes over and tells ya, “Oh, it ain’t that bad,” when you’re strugglin’ to carry in your firewood. It ain’t that they don’t mean well, but they just don’t get it, do they?
So what can ya do about it?
Well, first off, don’t be afraid to talk to him about it. I know, I know, sometimes it’s hard to open up when you’re feelin’ all moody and frustrated, but communication’s the key here. Tell him how you feel, and be honest with him about what you need. You don’t have to go on and on, but a simple, “Hey, I could really use your support right now,” can go a long way. It might make him realize that he’s been keepin’ his distance when you really just need someone to lean on. He might be tryin’ to be respectful, but he could be doin’ it all wrong.
Now, another thing to think about is that sometimes, men just don’t know how to deal with all the emotional ups and downs. It ain’t that they don’t care, but they might be a little unsure about how much support to give. Some folks think that just stayin’ away is the safest bet, and in a way, they’re tryin’ to avoid addin’ to the stress. But in reality, that distance can feel like rejection, and that’s the last thing you need.
In these cases, patience is important. Try to be understanding about where he’s comin’ from, and maybe explain to him what would help. He might not even know that just being there, even if it’s quiet, can make all the difference. A simple text, a little bit of company, or even a shared moment of silence can say more than words sometimes.
What not to do
- Don’t blame everything on your period. Sure, your hormones are all over the place, but that don’t mean it’s an excuse to snap at him or get angry over small things.
- Don’t assume he doesn’t care. Sometimes, people handle emotions differently. Just because he’s distant don’t mean he’s lost interest in you.
- Don’t make light of your own experience. Your period is a big deal. It’s not something to just brush off or hide away. Don’t let anyone dismiss it, not even yourself.
In the end, I reckon the key to all of this is communication. Sometimes, just talkin’ about it can clear up a lot of confusion. And remember, if he truly cares for you, he’ll listen and try to understand. Men might not always get it, but if they’re willing to try, that’s worth something, don’t ya think? Now, don’t go lettin’ it fester inside ya, and be sure to give him the chance to make things right. There’s always room for a little more understanding, even when emotions are high.
Tags:[Boyfriend Avoids Me, Period, Hormones, Communication, Long Distance Relationship, Relationship Issues, Support During Period, Mood Swings, PMS, Menstrual Cycle]
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